Many believe that attaining a habit is a simple thing,yet most people give up right from the beginning and never give time a chance to do its work. They wait for the right day,a Monday,the first day of the month or even next year. However unless you dedicate 100% of your energy to it,you will never go further from this very day.
Habits take time to stick.
What most people don`t know is that there is an actual proven number of days required in order for your new habit to kick in. It has been estimated that each individual requires more or less 65 days to attain a habit.So there is no room for slacking or skipping a day thinking you could catch up.
The 3 second rule.
It doesn’t matter if you are about to approach somebody on the street for directions or help or it is that moment of the conversation where you finally have the chance to say something and stand out the 3 second rule applies to habits as well.We have all been in that situation where it`s time to go hit the gym,but then we think to ourselves”- Why don`t I watch just one more video and then I will go.”And then you watch one,two,five videos and by the time you are ready to go,it is either too late or the gym might interfere with your other plans and everything goes to ruin.
It takes every person 3 seconds to decide whether he will take action or do nothing. If you ponder on whether you should do this or not for longer than 3 seconds your mind will most likely talk you out of it and find something less important for you to do,thus taking you back to your comfort zone. Same goes for waking up,if your alarm goes off and you don’t get out of bed within the next several seconds you probably wont find the will power to get anything done that day either.
Planning and making a schedule.
Some people (such as myself) tend to take up a lot of hobbies at once. So when the time comes to actually start doing all of them they go into panic mode and just freeze and end up doing none of them. This is why planning your day from the moment you wake up until you go back to bed solves all of the unnecessary headaches you might get otherwise.
Some might say that it is better to plan a day in advance,others would recommend doing it first thing in the morning.In my opinion preparing a schedule the day before would save you up some time on the next day as everything you will have to do that day would already be written down for you.
Do not overdo it.
As I mentioned in the previous paragraph a lot of people tend to take up way too many hobbies for them to handle and they end up quitting and returning to their normal routine. It is fundamental in the beginning to think about the most important and vital things to you. The things that would actually help you acquire the rest of the habits that you need.
Think of it as a mechanism such as the inside of a watch,there are several wheels that when working together make the watch itself function. Think of each of these wheels as one of your habits,you need the first one to begin with and then the second one starts spinning and by the time you realize it the whole thing is going at full speed. But remember you cannot have the last wheel spinning without the rest,this is why you need to balance each and every one of your habits simultaneously.
Leaving bad habits behind.
Occasionally,what holds us back is not just the lack of motivation or discipline,but the habits that we already have. As they say ”if you want something you never had do something you never did”. Up until a certain age we have all developed certain habits that determine each of our days,most of the time to keep us in our comfort zone and that is exactly where we need to start from before we begin to build our new habits.
Don’t share your goals.
Contrary to popular belief sharing your goals with friends or other people can actually harm your motivation and the speed of the process. By sharing your goals or intentions you trick yourself into thinking that you have already done most of the work and that you are almost there. As soon as we get the validation from people we become less determined and motivated to follow our goals and thus hindering the process.
At the end of the day it`s our actions that define us and push us forward,not our words. Everyone likes talking about what they will do or what they want to do. Daydreaming while waiting for the magic faerie to bring you to the place,where you want to be. In reality,however,it is far more harder than most think and unless you put your heart and soul into what you believe is the right path for you then don`t bother at all.