If there is one thing you need to rid yourself from, that’s toxic people. You’ve all met them at some point in our lives or perhaps you’re still hanging out with some. Toxic people are the people that always turn good into bad, always find something to whine about. Basically people who can ruin everyone’s day and discourage you from taking action and following your dreams.
In case you still don’t know how to deal with them or spot them, here are a few tips that can help you:
You will never be able to beat toxic people at whining. They can go for days complaining how their lives are the worst, how everyone and everything is against them and how nobody has it as bad as them. Even if you try to cheer them up they’ll already have a comeback how wrong you are.
As a matter of fact even if everything is going well and according to plan toxies will still find something to whine about. Be it the smallest thing like somebody ran in front of the camera and ruined the shot or they gave you only 2 sugars instead of 3, something like this can get them on a rant spree for the rest of the day.
As much as you’d like to help them, most of them just enjoy wobbling around in their bubble of negativity.
Putting people down
For most toxic people their actions are a reflection of their reality. They just can’t let somebody feel good for himself if they don’t feel good for themselves and even if they do they would still try to put you down just so they could feel better. In fact they’ll do everything in their power to make you feel the same way they do. It may surely look easy to avoid them, but in some cases these type of toxic people can be one of our closest friends.
The best way to spot them is when you’re sharing something new and exciting for you,new hobby or a job promotion, and that’s when they take the bait. Toxies don’t like people having it better than them so they will immediately strike with a demeaning comment, renouncing your achievement or change the subject to a topic they feel confident and good about.
Gossiping behind people’s backs
Gossiping serves as fuel for an oddly large amount of people. Be it at work or in your friend’s circle gossiping is always there and frankly it never leads to anything good. It is even more likely to get yourself in trouble if you decide to join the gossiping. Once the word reaches the person you were gossiping about, you will be the one doing the explaining then.
If there is one good thing about gossiping, that would be figuring out faster who you’re dealing with. In case you’ve just met this person and they started gossiping about someone, by the amount of energy and the type of words they use you can easily see what you’re getting yourself into. The least it will spare you the drama in the future.
“You can easily judge the character of a person by how he treats those who can do nothing for him.” – Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
In many cases a toxic person might be hiding in one of your friends, your family or even your partner and what many people do is, they neglect it. They would go for years expecting that their friends would change at some point, but most of the times they don’t.
Change is hard and painful and it’s not something many would do. This is why as hard as it might be you will need to cut these type of people from your life sooner or later. The least you spend with them the better.
“It is better to walk alone than with a crowd going in the wrong direction.” – Diane Grant
What do you think ? Are there more types of toxic people we should be looking out for when trying to stay motivated and being aligned with your goals? Share your thoughts in the comments below.